Relationship Coaching Continued...
i think you'd agree we were not born and handed a playbook for relationships.
The truth is they can be hard. And there are so many things to think about and deal with if we want to be successful:
- how to listen well
- when to set boundaries
- how to get your needs met
- how to decide if you should move on or not
- how to know if they are the right person to begin with
- how to stay, keep love alive, and still accept your differences
If you can relate to the necessity of some of these skills, that’s great. Believe it or not, these are only some of the basic requirements to have a successful relationship.
If you didn't have effective role-modeling and gain these skills your relationships will be far more difficult.
Some people were raised in really solid homes and so take for granted what many of us never got. There is no way around it, if you want better results – we have to re-learn these things to enjoy healthy relationships.
We need ways of “flushing-up” any patterns that are derailing us that are nearly impossible to see that other's easily see.
These are all great questions we answer in the Ed Ferrigan Relationship Coaching program and some other programs I’ll share in a moment.
What Makes Me Qualified?
I’m recalling back to 1995 when I hit an all time low, 30-days after my mother passed away.
By that time in my life, I had been through so many relationships I was quite concerned about how I could continue to live in a world where I felt so out of place.
Looking back there are a few things that make all the difference. This is the big one…
Little did I know or understand how the unconscious mind works and how it was constantly influencing my decisions and beliefs.
I didn’t understand it was negatively filtering the way I would select potential partners.
When you hear people saying, “My picker is broken!” this is what they are talking about.
Wether I was in a relationship or newly dating, I didn’t understand how my unconscious “wiring” caused me to do really stupid things in the relationship.
To make bad choices or to leave out critical information that would have determined the relationship fate early on - before so much time was wasted.
For example, I didn’t understand how “defending” my position about my beliefs was undermining any chance of finding common ground with my potential partner.
Or how critical or judgmental I’d get when a person started falling in love with me…as a way of keeping them at a distance for fear of getting my heart broken again…
After years of failing, I reached an all time low. It’s unfortunate that human beings typically have to hit an all time low before they will change or take some kind of new action.
That was 24 years ago and I am here to share that you can have your dream relationship no matter where you are at today.
My journey has brought me through the crucible of dismantling the beliefs, thinking patterns, and bad habits that hold most people back. This includes everything from attracting a great relationship, to then sustaining then sustaining it when you think you have found your soulmate.
...a much clearer sense of purpose...
My work with Ed has been powerful, impactful, and engaging. He's help me to gain a much clearer sense of purpose and vision while also providing some very practical tools for managing relationships at home and work. With just over two months of coaching, I feel like I have transformed my perspective, my personal relationships, and best of all, my relationship with myself. I feel happier and more balanced than I ever have, ready to live my life deeply and contribute something meaningful.
I highly recommend Ed's management classes and Ed's coaching style.
I highly recommend Ed's management classes and Ed's coaching style. He does not shy away from difficult conversations, and he is focused on getting to the core of our behaviors. (Productive and unproductive)
I personally benefited from the sessions I was able to attend. Some of his techniques reinforced the research I had done on my own. Other techniques gave me a unique and beneficial view into "why" my peers acted they way they did. This combination allowed me to be consistent and efficient in my leadership style.
...quickly helped me dissolve any discomfort and distrust of people...
I had my first session with Ed and was amazed at the difference it made. For the first time since I was a child I was able to be around certain people without feeling uncomfortable or angry. His amazing coaching process led me to recognize the core of the problem and then quickly helped me dissolve any discomfort and distrust. Since our session, I have been able to immediately recognize repetitive and destructive behaviors and eliminate them. I'm sure that all of this sounds pretty amazing, and it was amazing. I'm very grateful to Ed for his help and guidance. (update - Antonia found her dream man within 6 weeks after our session and still going strong after 2.5 years.)
He is very in tune with where people are at and how to help them reach their full potential!
I would definitely recommend Ed's process. He has such knowledge and understanding of people and how to help people find their strengths and then help others be successful in so many ways. He is very in tune with where people are at and how to help them reach their full potential!
It is very difficult to put into words what I received from Ed. He brought me to a place where I felt safe to explore feelings I was unsure of. He was so in tune with me that he got me out of my own head and got me to truly allow myself to feel the emotions I needed to feel to reach a new level of conciousness. And with that I felt the ability to take my relationships to a whole new level. I felt a sense of peace and tranquility I always wanted to find. He is amazing and had a gift that I wish so many could experience!
My job requires a great deal of tactful communication and Ed helped me get better at it.
Do it! Ed is an effective coach and an empathetic listener. He understands.
He explained things in an easily understood way. I was struggling with being able to communicate with a difficult coworker and Ed helped me see the situation through new eyes. In that session I saw some things about myself that were contributing to the problem. My job requires a great deal of tactful communication and Ed helped get better at it. I highly recommend him.
Ed is brilliant at leading groups and individuals to deeper insights...
Ed is brilliant at leading groups and individuals to deeper insights in the areas they need to truly comprehend about themselves to more effectively achieve the goals they are striving to accomplish. If he doesn't have the answer he has the questions to ask to get you to the answer. In his organizational work he is both a voracious learner/researcher and a great guide for those who have the ambition to learn and gain more excellence.
...helped me to make peace with the work issue but will serve me in all areas of my life.
At the time that I met Ed, I was struggling with a very difficult professional situation. I was exhausted from trying to understand why I was not able to move beyond this challenge. The insight that he shared not only helped me to make peace with the work issue but will serve me in all areas of my life. It is not an exaggeration to say that it was life changing.
Great Investment In Myself!
What I like about coaching with Ed is: It's very action oriented and not just talk about problems. Ed also guides me to build my problem solving abilities that will last me a lifetime. Great investment in myself!
...lacked close emotional connection with others...
Ed's coaching has helped me tremendously in my relationship with myself, my kids and especially my wife. So much of my life I have been defensive and sometimes selfish and lacked close emotional connections with others. Ed's guidance has given me the ability to understand my unconscious behavior and the effect it can have on me, my kids, and my wife. I highly recommend Ed's relationship coaching for any man wanting to have more enriching relationships with his spouse and children.
His work is extraordinary!!
I have been a client of Ed's over a several year period of time. His work is extraordinary!! Ed enters into a state of consciousness where he is able to connect to a person's issue on the deepest level. In the Family Constellation Process the people who step in to assist in another person's process gain a great deal of insight and are guided to really step into the shoes of the "role" they are playing. Magic and healing happen. Trust the process, trust Ed. Spirit guides him.
Taught me to out of my head and into my body...
" Ed has been one of the most helpful coaches I have ever worked with. I can't say enough good things about him and how much I have learned during our coaching. He came highly recommended from a very good friend of mine, who has worked with Ed for years. From the first time I spoke with him, he taught me to get out of my head and into the feelings in my body and how to regulate my emotions (caused by trauma as a very young child) in order to soothe myself. His teachings have been a total game changer. He cares very deeply about connecting with each of his clients on a soul level and identifying what exactly is going on with each person, so that he can provide exactly what they need to change their own lives (with his support). He provided me with the tools I needed to communicate with my new boyfriend more effectively (which was much needed as I was experiencing all kinds of triggers due to fear/past trauma) and he provided couples counseling for us also which was very effective. I purchased a package of sessions with Ed because this allowed me access to his "getting relationships right" videos and teaching modules which have helped me immensely. After a string of not so healthy relationships, I am finally in one that I can speak my truth and that continues to get better every day. I am so thankful that I was led to Ed and I continue to work with him today as he is a pillar in my path of personal growth/development. I joked with him that I will be inviting him to my wedding one day since it will likely happen because of everything I have learned from him. Thank you, Ed, for being such a healing, caring, consistent, and loving presence for me! "
It took an hour of coaching to change everything.
It only took one session to fix a relationship issue that has been with me my entire life. I was completely shocked that it was that easy. I spent years in miserable relationships and was on my third marriage. It took an hour of coaching to change everything. I’m still blown away that it was so easy. I wish everyone could understand how much our past affects our future.
Ed's coaching is absolutely incredible!!!
I have worked extensively with Ed at various points in my life and his coaching is absolutely incredible!!! My life literally has transformed with his work and I use the tools and strategies I have learned from him on a daily basis to better and more consciously navigate my life, its decisions, and relationships.
I stopped taking too much responsibility for others...
I stopped taking too much responsibility for others...
Through Ed's coaching I was able to see places where I was taking too much responsibility. By shifting this, performance increased and team members felt more empowered.
Ed Ferrigan is a gifted and multi-talented man...
Ed Ferrigan is a gifted and multi-talented man. I participated in classes with him on successful communication strategies as well as in his Family Constellations workshop. What I learned in these formats was deeply life-changing and helped me identify and work on core issues which have led to personal and professional success. I highly recommend Ed's coaching process.
...the best gift you've given yourself.
It will be the best gift you've given yourself.
Ed helped my team with Stress Management at a crucial time. It allowed us to maintain perspective, reduce stress, and endure for a while longer without more fallout.
...very knowledgable and caring person!
Ed is very knowledgable and caring person. He’s in your corner to achieve your goals.
Worked through the communication roadblocks...
Ed's relationship coaching has helped to significantly be more emotionally connected in my marriage...
Ed Ferrigan is a multi-talented man...
...participated in classes with him on successful communication strategies...I highly recommend Ed's coaching process.
...Professional, Caring, and Extremely Talented Therapist!
“Ed is a professional, caring, and extremely talented therapist. He understood what I was going through and worked tirelessly to help me get to the place I wanted to get to.”
Got Clarity and Communication Skills Improved!
Ed helped me to get to the underlying problems with my marriage. Through Ed's coaching and family constellation processes I had one of the most profound experiences in my life. I was able to get to underlying anger I developed as a child and transform it to stop the dynamic in my marriage. Truly liberating and I feel infinitely blessed…
...quickly helped me dissolve any discomfort and distrust of people...
...now able to immediately recognize repetitive and destructive behaviors and eliminate them.
"No More Debilitating Episodes..."
“I came to Ed because of sudden panic attacks that would literally cause me to pass-out in public. After 4 years of not being able to solve it, going the medical path, and becoming more and more reclusive, a friend suggested Ed. After 4 months Ed actually encouraged me to ween off the coaching and to trust that I was ready. Sure enough. That was a year ago and I have not looked back and have had no more debilitating episodes.”
Ed is a phenomenal coach...
Ed Ferrigan is a phenomenal coach ... & much more than just a career coach. He helped me see my potential in so many aspects of my life & to integrate these disparate elements into a new & more cohesive whole that serves me well. I highly recommend Ed Ferrigan.
...exquisite at assisting others in uncovering the hidden truths!
...Never have I felt so free and in the flow of my own destiny...owning every part of the process.
Resources At Your Fingertips
In the Ed Ferrigan Relationship Coaching program you have access to a lot of leading edge resources at your fingertips. It’s a complete solution.
A simple way to get started is to look at the bigger picture of your situation. Over the years I've discovered some key areas in relationships. When these areas are tended to and nurtured, relationships work. I created a tool called The Relationship Success Wheel. Get your FREE copy HERE
Another fantastic and Hallmark Course in the Ed Ferrigan Coaching suite is the Getting Relationship Right Mastery Program. An invaluable resource to instruct anyone on the basics of relationships including…
- Making healthy agreements, maintaining them, how to change them when needed with out losing your connection
- What is healthy responsibility? Lessons designed to help you discern how your past is causing you to stay stuck in old patterns. How to recognize when you have given up your personal power and how to get it back in an instant. How taking full ownership of your experience immediately changes the dynamic between the two of you for the better. Lots more here…
- Processing emotions effectively. Every relationship will stir up your past. If there are any emotional “incompletions” I can guarantee you the partner you select to date or marry will trigger them. But most of the time it’s counter-intuitive how to process those experiences. Every highly emotionally charged experience that shows up is an opportunity to learn and update your memory system that is running behind the scene. Think about this: Neuroscience now shares that humans operate out of unconscious habituated patterns between 85-95% of the day. So basically we are on autopilot. We must understand how to create new patterns that are unconscious and that serve our relationships in a positive way.
- Communication skill development. At the heart of healing any dysfunctional belief or developmental trauma, we must learn about communication dynamics. When you learn how to effectively communicate its like one domino knocking over several in one event. You gain an advantage in all areas of your life when you learn healthy communication dynamics. This program provides you all you need.
These are just a few benefits you can count on to get your compass moving in the right direction.
Another program is the How To Stop Fighting And Arguing Program. This was a tool I developed because of the number of clients that came to me because of arguing and fighting going on in their relationship.
I created this video based program so they could learn all the basics for a one-time low price (saving a lot of money on therapy) then when they came to the coaching they were much further along in the changes they were trying to make.
Did you know that the number 1 reason couples give for getting a divorce is because they constantly fought? Pretty amazing considering all the tools out there today on how to have healthy communication.
In the How to Stop Fighting And Arguing Program you get:
- Communication Skills development. World class lessons to practice that will help you to communicate in a way that you feel heard. What to do when you get triggered and want to explode or “dismiss” others comments – that only make things worse.
- Listening Filters: These lessons will help you to identify and completely change, if needed, your listening filters that determine your style of communication. Once you understand and know how to instantly change your listening filters your relationship will improve. You’ll also become smarter and more in control of your personal power and how to keep your relationship solid even when difference feel impossible to solve.
- Boundaries: How to determine when you are being a “doormat” versus setting healthy boundaries. Boundaries are essential for feeling safe in your relationship. Without them you will continue to trip yourself up and be resentful. I used to be one of those ”rescuer” types who always took the brunt for the “team” only to realize being the sacrificial lamb was not helping the relationship.
- Video based program you regularly refer back to without additional expense when life throws you a curve ball just when you think you have things under control.
- There is a lot more in this program but I’ll keep it short for this brief introduction.
Then there is the Ed Ferrigan Coaching Program.
This is a world class program that helps you to integrate any aspect of relationships that you know you want to change. It includes…
- How to use your mind-body-spiritual connection to heal any past breach completely so you operate day-to-day from a place of joy
- How to process your emotions so traumatic events from the past stop recycling creating discomfort and second guessing of your relationship
- How to “complete” the incompletions from your childhood that leak into your current relationships so the triggers go away forever
- How to communicate your needs when you are triggered and confused
- How to differentiate from another so you stop giving away your personal power and can easily maintain it no matter what trips you up in life
- How to resolve issues that get triggered by anyone in your circle, from bosses to partners
These are just a few thing that I deal with daily with my clients.
I would love to work with you as well if you feel called to working with me.
In fact, you can even get a FREE one hour session (30 minute for sample and 30 min Q&A) to test it out. To see if we are a good fit and my process is right for you. I never use high pressure sales tactics to sign you up either so you can have a totally stress free experience.
Another valuable resource is the Ed Ferrigan blog. The blog has many articles that give you solutions too many common relationship issues.
I’ve posted some top links at the end of this page for your convenience.
This is a quick summary of resources for you to help you achieve the relationships of your hearts desire.
I love this work and every day strive to bring more-and-more solutions to help you make the transition as easy as possible so you can spend your time enjoying life instead of worrying what will happen week-to-week.
If any of this speaks to you, maybe it’s time to commit.
Remember, our brains don’t like change and as quick as you think something is a good idea – it will come up with a million reasons why not to follow through on it.
I’ve given you a brief overview of what you can expect.
What will determine your success though, is the measure of how deep your commitment is to acknowledging something needs to change and your commitment to follow-thorough on it.
Thank you for your time and I’m here if you need me.
Much love and many blessings on this life journey.
P.S. Remember, you have nothing to lose by trying out the FREE 1 hour session. You can enroll in that here.
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