Constellation phenomena are so contrary to our common assumptions about how we have been conditioned to believe, that they can seem unbelievable. To fully empower the potential of systems thinking and the constellation approach we must adopt the posture of stepping out of our current beliefs or theories and staying open to whatever is possible.
We must take the posture of being open to other possible phenomena that cannot be explained. It requires us to embrace the experience rather than the why. This posture moves us above belief and scientific level thinking into open-end inquiry, and the love of truth - often taking us beyond the explainable.
It de-fragments our thinking, leaving open possibility to full resolution in whatever form it needs to show up. It paves the way to being open to the vastness that systems-thinking offers us, knowing that we cannot always find comfort in knowing why something occurred. In practice, embracing this postures often allows us to expose false beliefs, assumptions, values and stories we carry that holds us back.
1. phenomenological - solutions from direct observation rather than interpretation, or speculation from past stories of beliefs.
Imagine a large circle of people, who may or may not know one another, gathered sitting in chairs. At one end is a facilitator sitting next to an empty chair.
When a person is ready to do a constellation s/he will sit in the chair and discuss only the facts (not interpretations) of the problem s/he is having. The problem is typically related to issues that are showing up in relationships but is not limited to this. (For example you may also want to use a constellation to map out a tough decision you are trying to make or a sickness you are encumbered with.)
It is helpful to know as much about your genealogy as possible. The facilitator will begin to form one or several hypotheses to explore and test based on the information given. The facilitator will then instruct the client to select people from the group to represent members of the constellation about to be formed possibly including a representative for him/herself.
Once representatives are selected the client will then place the individuals in their relationship to each other as the client perceives the issue being looked at. This is an intuitive process that requires the client to be tuned in and present in the moment.
This configuration forms what is known as the field. There is emphasis on facts because we want to create a field that is not contaminated with speculation, conjecture or false beliefs. The facilitator wants as natural a field as possible to emerge so the hypothesis can be tested with as little interference as possible. The more story you provide, the further it takes us away from possible truth that may emerge in the field once the constellation is set.
We want to influence the people playing the roles as little as possible. The less they know the better. (continues below)
People standing in as representatives of the system will experience bodily reactions.
Typically, representatives are clear that these feelings and sensations are not from their personal life experience but rather are part of the dynamics operating from the system they are representing. Sometimes, you, the representative, can have a parallel situation in your own life. This is a great opportunity to possibly gain insight into your own issue.
The goal of the facilitator is to create resolution where the Hellinger Orders of Love have been violated in the system. When resolution is complete healing begins across the system.
This points to another systemic benefit to phenomenology in that it is not uncommon for change to occur to affiliate members not present at the constellation.
Facilitators often hear later reports from participants that a person being represented in the system suddenly changed in a way that supported how the constellation played out in its resolution of the dilemma.
Constellation phenomenon is not therapy. It is not a catch-all solution that replaces therapy. It is a method of bringing out objective truth so reality can be dealt with and healed when possible.
We find to reap the most benefit it is best to let the experience permeate in your nervous system for a few weeks before being discussed. There is more happening in the system than what we can possibly discuss and find words for.
Allow this full spectrum of knowledge to take on the form it needs to without trying to shape it with our words or excitement.